Apartment Love Day . . .

So, I’ve been busy finishing up my psychology course, and I’m rather proud of myself as I finished all the lessons. Just waiting on the final exam now. I’ll be glad when that’s done. But anyway…that’s been holding a lot of my focus lately.

But today, looking around my apartment, made me decide that it’s time for an Apartment Love Day. It’s been suffering from neglect, and well, I’m taking today to remedy that. There, there, apartment, here’s a day focused on you. Don’t feel all neglected and alone.

Hello, kitchen counter! Definitely needs some loving.

Dirty kitchen counter and sink

Alrighty…dishes almost done. Looking much better. πŸ™‚

Cleaned up kitchen counter

Now for some little apartment love in the bedroom…oh dear.

Hello bedroom! Goodness…Yes, that is my mess. I…tend to not always see the point of picking something up. I mean, seriously, I’m just going to use it again later anyway, right?

Hubby is helpful with this though; he loves things neat and orderly, and hints gently about it every now and again, and that gets me motivated to do something about it. πŸ™‚

Honestly, I like a clean and an orderly place too, just lack the motivation sometimes. πŸ™‚

Messy bedroom floor and bureau

Ah, now that’s better πŸ™‚

(Hmm…looks like I need to do laundry soon.)

Cleaned up bedroom

Anyway…I’m sure you were very interested in my apartment love day.. “cough, cough” πŸ™‚

Happy Thursday All! Have a good one! πŸ™‚



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The Story Not Always Shared: Anxiety and Depression . . .

I’ve heard about depression among military wives and talked to many who are taking medicine and seeing doctors to try to help or at least manage it. Since I’ve been studying psychology (in college), I’ve been learning a lot, and one topic that comes up again and again is the emotional side of human beings, and how it can affect the physical side. Relationships with others are so important. People in relationships with others suffer fewer illnesses and tend to live longer. They’re usually happier and less likely to commit suicide.

Now, throw the military lifestyle into this mix. As a quick disclaimer, I’m not bashing the military at all. We need our soldiers to go out there and do the difficult things to protect us and help others, and those soldiers need their families too. There really isn’t any way around it. But there are challenges…and there are battles never shared…

While I’ve never been separated from my spouse since we’ve been married (four months today!), I’ve read that separation often invokes a grieving process. I remember crying a lot and feeling numb after seeing my, at that time fiance, off at the airport. I knew he would be back in a month, but losing our relationship for a month was hard. There is pain in losing a close relationship, even if for only a time. I worked through the separation, tried not to worry about him too much, kept busy, and looked eagerly towards his coming back. But that doesn’t mean that there weren’t times where I felt really low. Stress, coupled with constant moves, worrying about one’s spouse, and being away from those they know and places they are familiar with would cause stress for anyone. Make this into a lifestyle and it carries even more challenges.

Army Wife 101 had some good things to say in her post, War at Home: My Battle with Depression and Anxiety, and helped me to understand it a little more. I particularly appreciated her emphasis on the fact that anxiety and depression disorders are not disorders that you can just block out. Sure, you can learn how to live with them and manage them, but you can’t just “get over it.”

Now, I don’t want to imply that the military life is one of constant heartache and struggle. It’s not. There are definite positives that only military families experience. The military community (at least as far as I’ve experienced) is one of the friendliest and most helpful communities generally that I’ve ever been a part of. It’s like belonging to a nationwide club. Each of you know, really know, what it’s like and are more than willing to go out of your way to help each other. Also, military families can be quicker to truly appreciate the time they have together and take it seriously. It comes far more naturally than I believe happens with many civilian families. Military families get to see more of the world, and experience what it is like to be part of something bigger than just their immediate lives. There are more positives, but as a new military wife, I’m still learning what they are. πŸ™‚

May God bless!

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Feeling just a bit military . . . army gear everywhere . . .

Being a National Guard wife, sometimes I don’t feel at all like we’re military. Life is fairly normal, I keep house, he goes to grad school, we have our evenings together for the most part. Of course there are drill weekends, but other than that, it’s pretty much just normal life.

But, Monday night was a little different.

The Army issued him a ton of military gear this past drill weekend, and hubby pulled it out (backpacks, bivy bag, entrenching tool – nasty looking shovel – canteens, eye protection, helmet, rain gear, etc.) and spread it all over our livingroom floor . . .

TA-50 gear

Hubby was excited about all the gear he was issued, and I thought it was all pretty cool too . . .

(and also that many mothers with youngsters could benefit from some of the gear . . . I mean, look at all those pockets!)

But, you know, for someone whom the military life doesn’t really touch all that much, it was a little sobering for me.

I couldn’t help thinking, “They actually mean for you to use that gear, don’t they?”

(I know, I know, duh, right?! πŸ™‚ I’m really very bright . . . most of the time. Honest.)

Actually, I’m glad for the times when I get to be part of the military world. It helps me feel connected and keeps me in that mindset of being the wife of a soldier. When you’re not in it everyday, it can be easy to “forget” and then some things can come as quite a shock.

On the other hand, it appears that our puppy has adjusted quite well to being a military pooch. (That’s the sleeping bag/bivy bag hubby was issued. Puppy thought it was his.)

Happy Thursday all!

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What drill weekend is like (pictures)!

This past weekend was a drill weekend.

My parent’s farm cat was one of the first to greet us. She is such a gorgeous cat. πŸ™‚ She got the name emerald from the color of her eyes (just a bit of random information that you really need to know).

Spent time with my brother, who was back from college on spring break! πŸ™‚ We were going to hang out at a bookstore (after I met up with a friend for a bit of girl time, catching up, and talking about God and all). Even though I’m pretty crazy about books, my brother and I ended up hanging out in a small hardware store instead for a little. Don’t tell anyone, but I like tools and all that too. πŸ™‚ I would love to have my own woodworking shop . . . band saw, scroll saw, drillpress, sander . . . “dreamy sigh.”

Anyway, my brother is awesome to hang out with. You should try it some time.

Brother at shop

On drill weekends, hanging out with the family and all is great. I got to make sugar cookies with my two younger brothers too. πŸ™‚

But, I missed my hubby.

And, after a full weekend, there’s nothing like going home.

(Yep, puppy comes with us on drill weekends too.)

And the price of gas is so, way not cool right now . . .

And here I am. πŸ™‚ Uh, so sorry, but it’s the only picture I got of myself this weekend. Do you ever watch yourself in the sidemirror, or am I the only one? I find that I do that a lot. I think I’m just terribly curious to see what I look like in random, everyday happenings. Either that, or I’m rather vain. I think I’ll go with the curiosity. πŸ™‚

Driving back as the sun sets. Happiness is being in the same car as my handsome soldier hubby. (I’d say more, but if I do, might end up getting all mushy, and pardon me if I’m wrong, but I’m not sure that anyone really wants to hear all of that. πŸ™‚

Happy Monday all!


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Milspouse Friday Fill-In #37 – PCSing, on post strangeness, and Jesus

Milspouse Friday Fill-In #37Hooray, another Friday Fill-In! Hop on over to Wife of a Sailor to join in, or read more great entries. Just remember to leave me a comment first. πŸ™‚

1. With PCS (permanent change of station) moves happening every few years, do you take the time to paint and decorate your home? submitted by Life as Mrs. JPT

I’m a National Guard wife, so I don’t have to worry about PCSing (though being newly married, with hubby in grad school makes me pretty sure that we’ll be moving in the next couple years, once he graduates). However, if I were PCSing, my first thought would be that of course I would decorate. For me, the decorations give that homey, familiar feeling to a place, and that’s pretty important no matter how often you move. πŸ™‚

2. If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be? submitted by Standing By Him

Okay, confession here. I haven’t watched much TV, so I really have no idea. In fact, I’m not really sure what type of home I would like to live in anyway. Hmm . . . now you’ve got me thinking. πŸ™‚ Let’s just put it this way, whatever home my husband lived in, that’s where I’d want to be. πŸ™‚ Beyond that, it’s just details, (though I’ll be honest, sometimes I end up being rather particular about those details . . . “sheepish smile”)

3. What inspired you to start your blog?Β Β submitted by Pink Combat Boots

Hey look, it’s a question by me! (I was just going down through these questions and when I read this one, I thought it sounded familiar. It took me a moment to realize that I had submitted it. πŸ™‚ Thanks Wife of a Sailor!)

Uh, the long and the short story of my blogging is that I started it to connect up with others (particularly military folks). I had planned originally to write more military related posts, but as my blog has evolved, it’s become more about my personal life (military living, homemaking, marriage, my “family”) instead. I love writing and having a personal website though. I have the freedom to be myself here, almost like it’s my little corner of the world. πŸ™‚ Makes me happy and keeps me in touch with others. πŸ™‚

4. What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever seen on base?Β submitted by Adventures in Life

Well, my base experiences have been very limited. Actually, I’m not sure if I have technically ever been on a real base. I’ve been on several military installations . . . well, ok, two. And as far as I can recall, there really wasn’t anything that strange on them. I did think that having an unmanned barbershop inside of an open, unmanned Subway shop was a little strange, but maybe that’s just me. In the civilian world, if nobody was in the building, it would have been considered closed (and the door would have been locked). And, not to many people would want hair cutting down close to where they are eating (even if the barbarshop was enclosed behind glass).

5. Which historical figure (politician, writer, artist, scientist, actor, etc. . . ) would you like to have dinner with? submitted by Army of Two


Napoleon Bonaparte says it best, “I know men and I tell you that Jesus Christ is no mere man. Between him and every other person in the world there is no possible term of comparison. Alexander, Caesar, Charlemagne, and I founded empires. But on what did we rest the creations of our genius? Upon force. Jesus Christ founded His empire upon love; and at this hour millions of people would die for Him.”

I’d like to sit down with Jesus. In fact, I’d just like to be in His presence, and see Him there across the table from me. I don’t think I’d really want to say anything for a very long while. I’d be in too much awe. Sends chills up and down my spine just thinking about it.

Alrighty, Happy Friday everyone! Have a wonderful weekend!


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A Dog with Soul . . . (pictures!)

What is it about the Collie . . .

. . . that speaks of nobleness . . . and greatness . . .

. . . and something beyond themselves . . .

. . . and of selfless love . . . and undying loyalty . . .

And what is it that allows a Collie to lose all shred of pride and self-respect . . .

And be so relaxed and confident to be themselves . . .

and not worry about how silly they look . . .

Danny Collie sleeping

Almost makes me envy him . . .


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Got the Paperwork, I can go with Husband!

I just got the paperwork yesterday. Hubby doesn’t have to stay on base for his TDY (for BOLC B), so I can go with him to Virginia!


Sure, I’m rather nervous, with it being the first time I’ve moved to an area I don’t know, and the first time he’s been full-time with the army since we got married.Β  But I’m glad we don’t have to be apart for three-plus months.

Hooray! πŸ™‚

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