What I Learned While He Was Away

I had taken a break from writing here for a bit. Mostly because I had run out of things to write about, or more honestly, I hadn’t felt like writing about things. But, now I’m ready again :)

My husband just got back from AT. For you non-military, non-National Guard people, AT- Annual Training-is two weeks during the summer where the soldiers train and drill. I believe that most of the time, this training is two weeks completely away from family. However, I was blessed tremendously by being able to have my husband back in the evening (although later evening), on most nights. :) Nothing can replace that hug and kiss and “I love you” every night. :)

I believe I learned a lot in these two past weeks.

- First, I have become completely convinced of my own rookie status as a military wife. I know exactly what SHOULD be done and how things SHOULD be handled. I could write the manual. But…uh…put me in the field and I get disoriented fast. I have a even greater appreciation for experienced military wives now than I did before. :)

- Second, it’s true. You do become more independent and confident. I feel now that I grew in my own confidence and in God being with me, even if I do have to handle things when on my own when my husband is gone. Sure, I won’t be thrilled about it, but I can do it.

- Thirdly, even though I couldn’t be part of my husband’s mission (which totally sucks-pardon the word), I was immensely proud of him and did find some ways to be involved. I’ve always wanted to be the little sidekick to my husband. But…the military doesn’t exactly have “sidekicks” in the picture. Blast! lol. So while my husband was off shooting rifles

and driving around in humvees

and trying out night-vision goggles

and repelling off cliffs

(and doing more boring and less glamorous things),

I was at my parents trying not to be jealous and not feel too terribly left out.

BUT, prayer WAS a way for me to be involved. Funny, how that took me awhile to figure out. :)

- Fourthly, and finally, I hadn’t expected change. I thought, really, what could happen in two weeks? Sure, you just push through and come out the other side and everything is the same again, right? While that’s true to a certain extent. I mean, I’m still me, and he’s still him, there were changes. At first, the changes made me really nervous, and I began planning how I would change things back once AT was over, and I worried about what would happened if they didn’t change back.

Then I kinda got over myself and realized, very obviously, that even if there were changes we weren’t going anywhere and neither was God. It was one of those “duh” moments. :) I also realized how precious it is to be married to a guy who is committed. It’s not about how long we love each other, or how long we have a good time together. It’s about making the most of what God brings our way. We’re here for the good and the bad times. I knew this already, but it was nice to have the reminder, just the same. :) And, growth (change) isn’t exactly a bad thing. :)

Oh, oh, oh, one last thing. I clung to something over the last two weeks that was especially comforting. The military is something you can’t argue or reason with. What they say goes, and it doesn’t always make sense. It’s unlike anything I’ve ever had to deal with in the civilian world. I’ve heard people portraying the military as a sort of “god” because it can order anything it wants too basically and you just have to do it (okay, my husband has to do it, I personally am under no binding commitment to the military, but it sure helps my husband if I don’t raise too big a fuss). However, the military can’t give one order or move one step without God allowing it. Sure the military will make bad calls and give bad orders, but they are all under the oversight of God.

And I trust God. :)

(P.S. Family support from my own family was precious to me too. Two weeks gave me time to renew relationships, especially with my younger brothers. I got to spend a good bit of time with my mom too and that was precious to me. She really seemed to understand and be okay with me not always being all happy all the time. I really felt that she cared. Thanks, Mom!)

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Dinner with Warriors . . . A Time to Remember and Pray

May God bless you all with a wonderful Memorial Day!

I’m spending mine cleaning our apartment and getting ready for my husband’s leaving for Annual Training. I’m so proud of being married to a soldier, especially on days like today. I feel like I’m part of something very big, something that isn’t just part of today, but part of yesterday and part of Tomorrow. For all those who have served, Thank you! For all those who have stood beside their servicemembers who were serving, thank you! For all those who are aware of what the military is doing and has done, thank you!

I was approached a bit back by www.DinnerWithWarriors.com and asked if I would be interested in sharing their cookbook with you all. I was delighted for the opportunity. It’s a special book, with each recipe sharing the story of a wounded or fallen warrior who has served in the war on terror. 70 heroes share their stories and pictures coupled with their favorite recipes. The book is 150 pages long and packed with 120 recipes. I feel it’s important to promote awareness of what our servicemembers are doing, so I was impressed with the cookbook and the ministry. Even more, the proceeds of this book ($16.50 plus shipping and handling) go directly towards helping those who have been wounded or fallen, or family members of wounded or fallen warriors. Dinner With Warriors has donated to The Wounded Warrior Project, Children of Fallen Patriots Fund, Children of Fallen Soldiers Relief Fund, The Soldiers Angels, Homes for our Troops, and TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Programs for Survivors. (Visit More Info Here to learn more.) It’s a simple cookbook with a simple, tasteful layout. However, the real jewel of the book is embedded in the stories and recipes contained within it’s pages.

Also . . .

We visited the local military museum on Saturday. :) There was a very small encampment of World War Two re-enactors there and hubby and I stopped by to see. We were a bit disappointed that it was so small, but I enjoyed going.

Priscila standing in front of tank

I guess tanks are the coolest (at least to me), so that’s where we got some pictures of us :) Kinda strange to be standing next to a piece of history . . . I’m not sure if both of these tanks saw action, but ones like them did.

Hubby in front of tank

The German soldier had this display of guns set up . . .  :)

stack of German guns

And, here are some of the soldiers.

World War Two Reeanctors talking

Well, God bless, everyone! And hope you have a wonderful Monday with family and friends!

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The good and the bad (a week in retrospect)

…Been one of those weeks…

You know, the kind that you won’t be sad to see gone, where you thank God for getting you through, and keep praying for His continued grace and power in the weekend ahead for you and your loved one. Nah, it wasn’t a horrible week, but I can’t think about too many things that I’ll miss. I won’t miss the quiet suppers sitting alone in front of hulu, trying to find something to watch that is decent, interesting and won’t make me cry (amazing how those three rarely run together). I won’t miss checking the door locks alone and then doublechecking them (yes, I am a little paranoid). I won’t miss staying up as late as possible to put off going to bed alone.

Funny how there is this strange ache from not being touched for a week.

(Okay, that’s all of my complaining…because I know, I am really blessed.)

This Week’s Blessings

(1) Got a wonderful, hardworking hubby who made it a point to communicate while he was gone. (Priceless!)

(2) Met with some wonderful ladies at the Ladies Salad Supper Monday night. I got to hang out with a delightful retired missionary lady to and from the church building, and it was awesome! Heard funny stories from her “on tour” days. Laughing together was good. :)

(3) Got my psychology final studied for and taken. Can’t believe I’m done with that course now. It’s a good feeling. :)

(4) I learned how to calm myself at night so I could sleep ok. Took me a couple nights, but I finally started to figure it out. lol

(5) Got to chat with my family and a good friend the other night. My day’s are running together, so I can’t remember which evening it was, but probably Tuesday. Chatting with them was pretty awesome though. :)

(5) Was guessed as being in gradeschool. Should have seen the man’s jaw drop when I told him that I was married. In fact, his jaw dropped so far, I had to pick it up and hand it back to him. :) Made me laugh. :)

(6) People from my church prayed for us Sunday evening and offered to help if I needed anything without us even asking. It was encouraging and comforting to me to know that if I needed it, someone was close by.

(7) Even though hubby was away, I could text him whenever I wanted and he was just a phonecall away and in the same time zone. :)

And there are so many more blessings that I’ve begun to think about…now that I started listing them…Thank you, Father!

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Happy Milspouse Appreciation Day!

Hey all, while I’m waiting for the dirty dishes in my kitchen to grumble a little louder before I go and clean them, I thought I’d hop online here. Well, to my surprise, I discovered that today is military spouse appreciation day! :) That brought a smile to my face. Thank you all so much, military spouses, for all you do! You’re special and amazing!

For those of you who aren’t in the military world, here’s a few blog posts that might give you a glimpse. If you get the chance today, thank a military spouse for what she is doing. Believe me, you’ll make her day. :)

Top 11 Reasons I Love Being an Army Wife

How Deployment Affected This Military Spouse

101 Ways to Thank a Military Spouse

Today and Every Day: Her War, Her Voice

I found these two posts this morning and would love to read more. If you wrote a post today that has to do with being a military spouse, please leave a link in the comments below! :)

God bless!

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Little guy stopped in for breakfast . . .

Things had been getting a little slow around here . . .

but this chipper guy stopped in for breakfast this morning. He and I had a chat, while we were eating (me eating my yogurt parfait and him eating his frosted minibarks).

What? Don’t look at me so funny like. Just because you never talked to a beaver doesn’t mean you can’t.

Continuing on . . .

I showed him the most recent picture of myself.

Priscilla wearing army helmet

He said there’s a very good reason I’m not in the army. I’d look funny in the helmet.

Uh . . . true.

(Plus, that thing is really heavy.)

(Talking to beavers can be rather disconcerting, seeing as they are rather opinionated and not prone to coating their words with sugar.)

He said, my Hubby, on the other hand, can pull it off rather well.

Colin in Army helmet

And on that point, I rather agree with him :)

(My apologies for a completely nonsense post. I needed one of those today. If you’re planning on talking to beavers any time soon, give me a buzz and I’ll clue you in on some of the more common courtesies important among the beaver community.)


In case you’re wondering, here are the recipes for Yogurt Parfait and Frosted Minibarks:

Yogurt Parfait:

- 1 single serving container of plain yogurt

- Honey (added to taste)

- Fresh fruit (oranges, bananas, or any kind of berries)

- Granola

Scoop out the yogurt in a bowl and add enough honey to taste. Then you can choose to layer the yogurt, fruit, and granola in a parfait glass or stir them together in a cereal bowl. Either way, it’s a healthy breakfast and rather tasty too!

Frosted Minibarks:

- Small bark chips from any number of lighter bark trees (birch trees are particularly perfect)

- 1/2 cup Confectionery sugar

- 1 tablespoon Milk

- 1/4 teaspoon Vanilla extract

Layer the bark chips in a single layer on a cookie sheet. Then mix the sugar, milk and vanilla extract together in a separate bowl, Drizzle the glaze over the bark chips and allow them time to sit at room temperature (or if you have the space, put them in your refrigerator). Once the glaze has hardened, pull the Minibarks out and serve.

(By the way, the frosted minibarks recipe is provided solely for the purpose of feeding random beaver visitors. Wild counterparts should be left to their usual diets. Also, it is entirely unfit for human consumption. Trust me on this one.)

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Sometimes we see justice served . . .

You know, sometimes it is just good to see justice served. I know many times, justice will not be given until after we die and we stand before God. But, sometimes, it does happen on this earth, and there is something very, very encouraging about that.

I won’t pretend that I’ve been affected by 9/11 and the events following it, because, in all honesty I haven’t. I didn’t know anyone there and didn’t know any soldiers or their families till just recently. My husband just recently joined the military, so I haven’t really felt the affects much in my own family yet.  My heart went out to those I knew were suffering and struggling and subsequent September 11th’s never passed without me remembering the families and praying for them.  But, that has been about all . . .

Until recently. Now I know soldiers who have been deployed and who are deployed. I know families and have friends among the military community. I’m starting to realize what all this means and the bigger picture.Yesterday morning, my husband came in to where I was still waking up from sleeping and shared the news with me. I’m ashamed to say it, but I brushed it off. To my pragmatic mind, I knew it would change nothing for me personally. One more bad guy was caught, that’s all. But, over the full course of yesterday and today, things began to sink in. I read the stories from so many other military wives, saw the news, heard of the celebrations going on, and the mixed reactions of so many people.

I remembered back to that first September 11th and my memories from that day. And somehow the news yesterday seemed very right. I thought, you know, this is something that I will be sharing with my children someday.

While I have no right to claim anything for myself, because I have not really been affected, I wanted to extend a heartfelt thank you to the Seals, to their families, and to all the soldiers and their families in the military community — to everyone who has served, not just in this war but in all our wars. My prayers go up for everyone who has been affected in the past many years, and who will continue to be affected for many, many years to come. Finally, I thank God for bringing justice in a way that I can see. May He continue to move and work as He has been and bring an end to this war.

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Milspouse Friday Fill-in #39 – Separations and Children’s Names

1. Have you and your spouse agreed to live in separate locations (a geographical bachelor tour) knowing that the short-term inconvenience would have long-term benefits for your family? How did it work for you? submitted by When Good People Get Together

Well, we haven’t had this opportunity, and I’m glad. I can see it being considered if there was a significant short-term career advancement opportunity. Say, further education elsewhere or a short-term internship (or TDY’s with the military). Benefits? Hmmm…possibly a savings with finance, possibly not. Also, it could allow for opportunities that wouldn’t be possible otherwise.

2. What is your favorite thing about being a MilSpouse? submitted by Sarah Ruth Today

Hmm . . . well I love how hubby looks in the uniform :) and the extra drill pay is appreciated. I love being part of the military community (at least online, I don’t live near a base) and have appreciated the contacts I’ve made and the inspiration and encouragement that others have given me. I also think that, being part of the military community gives you a somewhat different perspective on things. You don’t take a lot of things for granted.

3. If you could still have your spouse/significant other and your family, but take the military life out of it…would you?  submitted by Trust. Love. Believe. Bake.

Mixed emotions. The National Guard, in some ways, can be more of an inconvenience and less of an actual job and lifestyle (like I believe it is for many active duty families), so in that sense, yes, I would like to have the inconvenience part gone. However, I’m proud that my husband is in the military . . . :)

4. What have your homecoming experiences been like after a year long tour of separation? submitted by Army Soldier, Army Wife

We haven’t been separated for any longer than a month, and that was before we were married; we’re pretty new to the military. After a month separation, the reunion was very sweet. Like I’ve heard many say, the first couple days (or weeks) are like a honeymoon, you’re so happy to see each other again. :) After that, you settle into readjusting and realizing that you both went through things while apart that the other didn’t really share in.

5. If you have a child(ren) why you chose their name(s)? If not, why you would name your child something?  submitted by Tiara’s & ACU’s

Hmm . . . my number one criteria is that both hubby and I like the name(s). After that, I want it to be one that society won’t think is strange. I don’t want our children walking around with names that make people do a double-take. Other than that, I don’t know. I keep trying out names in my mind, and may have some tentatively picked out, but nothing definite yet. I guess, in some ways, romantic that I am, I want to give my children names that stand for something too (like they did in the Bible), but that can get a little tricky. Perhaps, I’ll give my children good and proper names and then give them nicknames with meanings (nice nicknames, that is). :)

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